Dr Oz: Are You a People Pleaser Quiz
Do you have a hard time saying “No” to other people? Did you know it could actually be causing harm to your health? Dr. Oz says there is literally a 35% increase in premature death for those who are constant people-pleasers and their risk for cancer goes up by 70%. Dr. Oz created a quiz to help you figure out whether you are a people pleaser and in return, putting your health at risk.
- I keep my emotions to myself.
- I am afraid to let people know my feelings.
- When I am angry I do not let people know.
- I often do not tell my friends something that I think will upset them.
- I try to be pleasant so that others will not get upset.
- When I am anxious I try not to worry anyone else.
Do any of these statements apply to you? If so, you are causing harm to your own health. Dr. Oz says by saying “yes” to everyone else, you are saying “no” to your own health, which nobody should be doing.
Dr Oz: How to Say No to Others
Tiffanie Davis Henry, a Psyycotherapist, says women especially have a problem saying “no” to others because they are raised to take care of everyone else, but are usually never taught to take care of themselves. Dr.Tiffanie says women need to recognize when they are taking on too much and start focusing on taking care of themselves, which means saying “no” more often.
Create a “Relive” and “Resent” board – Relive items are those you do not mind doing and would love to do them over and over again. Resent items are the things you wish you had not done in the first place and if you could do them all over again you would not have done them at all.
Look at the things you have said “yes” to over the course of a month and place each item into either the “relive” or “resent” category. Dr. Tiffanie says creating these lists is a way to begin setting boundaries, so you can start making yourself a priority.
Dr Oz: Taking Time for Yourself is Not Selfish
Saying “no” can be one of the hardest things to do, but Tiffanie Davis Henry says you can do it without hurting anyone’s feelings. She explained the more you say “yes” to other people, the more you are enabling them and weakening them, so now is the time to start saying “no” to them and “yes” to yourself.
- Taking care of yourself is not selfish, it is a necessity.
- Carve out time for yourself and put it on your calendar. Whether it is 10 minutes or an hour, you need to make yourself a priority.
- Take five and lie – Take five minutes to look at your schedule before giving an obligatory “yes” answer when asked to do something. This gives you an out and a chance to look at your calendar while figuring out a way to say “no” to the person’s request.
- “Oh, I’m already booked” – Dr.Tiffanie says this is the best 4-word answer you can give to someone when you do not want to do something because they will pretty much never ask what you are doing and you should not feel obligated to explain.
- Do not be afraid of the consequences if you say “no” to someone. Dr. Tiffanie says to stop focusing on the negatives and the “what ifs”, but instead focus on something positive you can do for yourself.