Dr Oz: Do You Put Others Before Yourself?
As part of his Blueprint for Balance, Dr Oz wanted to tackle those known as people pleasers. Gabrielle Bernstein, a life coach, admitted that she was dealing with her insecurities by saying yes to everyone too much. Gabrielle shared a check list that Dr Oz wanted everyone to go through. See if any of the following things apply to you:
- You never say no when anyone asks you a favor, even if it’s going to put you out
- You invest in more time, energy, and money in other relationships, and you don’t get the same in return
- You’re worrying about what you should’ve said or done after things happen
- You don’t feel good about yourself or what you did, unless people are complimenting you
If you checked three or more on the list, you’re likely a people pleaser.
Dr Oz: Use “No” As A Complete Sentence
Gabrielle then wanted to share the three things she did to stop being such a people pleaser. First was to start using “no” as a complete sentence. She explained that saying no is the most uncomfortable thing for a people pleaser to say. Constantly saying yes not only causes problems for yourself, but can cause you to resent the person you’re always saying yes to as well.
You can try to make a list of all the ways you say yes when you really want to or should say no. Once you write it all down you can start to recognize your actions, and then begin to use the word no. Gabrielle explained that any time you have to change a pattern, it’s about repeating a new behavior. Saying no can be uncomfortable at first, but the more you realize how much you’re actually helping yourself, the more you’ll realize that you’re saying yes to receiving.