Dr Oz: How Do I Forgive My Spouse After Cheating? + Find Closure

Dr Oz: Forgive & Forget After Infidelity

Is it possible to have a happy and healthy marriage after infidelity? Yes, according to Devon Franklin, it is possible, but happiness comes from a healthy process that requires time and commitment. It should be said that if you’re the offender, “you don’t get to determine when that time is up.”

Sandy was still trying to cope with her husband’s infidelity just six months into their 3-year marriage. She explained that it was so hard to live in the same house with him that at one point he had to move out. But she eventually forgave him, but couldn’t forget.

Devon Franklin was hoping to do an intervention with the couple to help them overcome an issue that so many couples face. He noticed that Sandy couldn’t help but still wonder why. Marion explained that there was no one thing, he just made a bad mistake and wasn’t thinking right when faced with an opportunity. It was necessary for him to grow with his wife and root himself in the marriage to start thinking like a committed husband.

Sandy said the explanation gave her “a little bit of” closure and she felt confident he wasn’t going to do it again. But every now and then she still struggles with “what ifs.”

Dr Oz: Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Devon pointed out that when trust is violated to this degree, it can be difficult to repair, but the fact that their both trying to work through it speaks volumes. It’s proof that healing is happening and Marion told his wife “when I broke your heart, it broke my heart.” He stated that from now until he leaves the earth, he wouldn’t betray her again.

It was important for Marion to do whatever it takes for Sandy to be confident when they are apart that it won’t happen again.

Dr Oz: Number One Tip To Forgive & Forget

Devon Franklin then revealed the number one thing you should do to forgive and forget after cheating: redefine what it means to forget. You should realize you’re never truly going to forget what happened, but instead you won’t relive it anymore. Devon also advised Marion to check in “doubly” when traveling to comfort and reassure his wife in hard times when she could be struggling. Be over-communicative and go the extra mile so that when you’re apart, none of those fears come up again.

You should also rewrite your love story. Any great love story has a great finish, so you have to acknowledge that some bumps will be faced along the way. Think about how you want your story to end and make it happen. Change your mindset. Every story has conflict and it’s about how the heroes respond to what they’ve been through. A couple can come back even stronger than when they started. And of course, each couple should focus on God. If they have faith, anything is possible.