Doctor Oz’s wife, Lisa Oz, recently published a book called US: Transforming Ourselves and the Relationships that Matter Most. Lisa joined Dr. Oz to discuss her new book that teaches how to improve your most special relationships. Lisa Oz spoke about the Enneagram System, an ancient system for determining a personality type and how to determine which of the 9 personality categories you fall under.
Lisa Oz has been married to Dr. Oz for 25 years and said that to be in a healthy and strong relationship with someone, that you have to first be in a good relationship with yourself. Lisa said that only when you are in touch with who you really are can you open yourself up to be intimate with someone else and you have to look past things like looks, job, money and brains.
Lisa Oz suggested using the Enneagram system to help determine what your personality type is. It is thought that the Enneagram System came to America through G.I. Gurdjieff in the early 1900’s, after being used by Sufi mystics and Ancient Desert Fathers thousands of years ago.
Dr. Oz falls under type #3: The Achiever in the Enneagram system. Dr. Oz is both highly driven (hence his success) but is also scare of failure. Lisa is type #6: The Loyalist, which means she is very loyal and affectionate, but she also needs certainty and has trouble with fear.
Enneagram System – 9 Enneagram Types:
Enneagram Type 1: The Perfectionist
You want everything to be perfect and ideal. You are a moral person who is noble and works hard. On the negative side, you may by hypocritical or self-righteous. You should focus on trying to accept the imperfections in life.
Enneagram Type 2: The Helper
You spend your time helping and caring for others. You want other people to feel a need for you, and it is crucial in order for you to feel self-worth. You should focus on giving to people without attaching strings, this way you won’t have any disappointment.
Enneagram Type 3: The Achiever
Overachievers often become high profile people such as media stars, business moguls or politicians. You are very driven to succeed, but this same ambitions can blind and delude you. Try to see the truth so that your leadership can really inspire.
Enneagram Type 4: The Individualist
Do you love being an individual and different from others? The Individualist often chooses careers like painting, poetry and acting. You are dramatic, creative, intuitive and sensitive. The down side is that you may be self-absorbed. Try to detach yourself from your inside world so that you can put more energy towards things outside of you.
Enneagram Type 5: The Intellectual
The Intellectual loves learning, is curious, has an open mind and loves learning about new ideas. Intellectuals can have a tough time expressing how they feel and may be aloof. Intellectuals should try to go outside of their mind and open their heart – since they aren’t natural givers, try to give more to others.
Enneagram Type 6: The Loyalist
The Loyalist is like Lisa Oz – loyal, hard working, trustworthy and affectionate, which is the most common type to be in America. Loyalists have many contradictions – strong and weak, bold and full of fear, petty yet generous. Focus on releasing your fears and trusting other people.
Enneagram Type 7: The Optimist
Optimists are uplifting to be around – cheerful, curious and “fun-loving.” Your desire for pleasure all the time is a mask to avoid pain. You should be careful of having too many activities and of being materialistic or having lots of things. Try to focus on acknowledging pain and suffering.
Enneagram Type 8: The Reformer
The Reformer is assertive, resourceful and very confident. Reformers want to change the world and love to fight so that they can seem like heroes. Conflict can cause lots of trouble in your life though. Learn how to relax and be vulnerable, it will improve your life.
Enneagram Type 9: The Peacemaker
Peacemakers are calm, look for the best in every one and are easy to get along with. You love harmony and tend towards spirituality. The down side is that you are often stubborn and need to be less passive to find real peace.
Which Enneagram type are you? Would love to hear from everyone, so don’t forget to leave a comment below! Lets see if most people really are Loyalists in the Western World!
To read an excerpt from Lisa Oz’s book Us, click here.