Dr Oz: Soccer Mom Living A Double Life
Dr Oz introduced Tara, a loving wife, “soccer mom” of three, and a school volunteer. She seemed to have the perfect life, but what everyone in her life didn’t know was that she was living a dangerous double-life for ten years. Tara explained that she was an over-achiever in her 20’s until she worked her way up at a bank. She met the man of her dreams and had three wonderful children. But what no one knew was that she was a highly functioning alcoholic.
Whether it was beer, wine, or vodka, she needed it to function every day. She used “strategies, tricks, and lies” to keep her habit a secret. Before a soccer game or similar event, she would make sure she would have enough time to go home and have a few drinks. She’s even put vodka in a water bottle, or blamed her toddler for the reason she had to leave and go home, just so that she could go home and drink more.
Dr Oz: High Functioning Alcoholic
In the morning she would chug a few beers before getting the kids ready for school, or she would put it in a mug so that no one was aware of what she was doing. She would even sneak home from her job at the bank to have a few drinks. A cemetery became her secret drinking spot and she hid many bottles of wine in her car or in the drawers next to her bed. As soon as her husband went to bed, she would “go full force” drinking most of the night by herself.
Dr Oz: Hiding An Addiction To Alcohol
Tara joined Dr Oz, explaining that she suffered from a lot of guilt and shame from what she was doing, and thought people simply liked her better when she was drinking. To hide her drinking, she would run the water in her house so that her husband couldn’t hear her pouring another drink and she would drive miles away from her house to throw the bottles away. She did a lot of the drinking by herself, making it hard for people to even know how much she was really drinking.
Tara shared that her daughter at one point had a school field trip to a cheese factory. It wasn’t exactly the best place to be while she was hungover, but she still went, despite the smell. Because of the commotion of the kids and the smell, she had to run outside and throw up. She lied and said she must’ve had a bug or ate something wrong. There were even times that she would drive her kids places after drinking.
Tara explained that she had no self esteem and was stuck in a vicious cycle. She had become so addicted to alcohol that if she didn’t have it, she would get anxious.
Dr Oz: Facing An Addiction To Alcohol
Tara was then joined by her husband Kevin. Tara shared that she was at a work function where there was alcohol. She drank too much but still drove 25 miles home where she was confronted by her husband who told her to leave. She went to a hotel and stayed the night, faced with her addiction, and then came home the next day, packed her bags, and said she was leaving to get treatment for her drinking.
Kevin said he felt a lot of negative emotions, but he loved his wife and wanted to be with her, so he was willing to look to the future. Tara said it’s hard knowing that she deceived her husband, because he was always honest with her. She now has a lot of regrets and a lot of guilt. It’s been 17 months since Tara has had her last drink, and she said she feels like she’s seeing life for the first time.
Dr Oz: What Happens When You Lie
Dr Oz welcomed psychologist Robin Smith, who said double lives can be summed up in shame and blame. There’s a shame in who you were and the blame for not being good enough. Dr Oz then explained that there’s actually a reason that we lie. Within one minute of telling a lie, your body senses stress and releases cortisol, causing your heart to race, pupils dilate, and sweat glands to activate. Over time, lying can have a long-term effect on the body including brain fog, sleep disturbances, and hopelessness.
For all those who are living a double life, Tara said “hang in there and just know that there is another side and there is hope.”