Dr Phil: 15 and a Teenage Terror
Vicki sought help from Dr Phil in managing her 15-year-old daughter Josie. The girl was kicked out of school and is on the wrong path, which features everything from drug use to drinking to theft and sneaking male companions into the family home. Dr Phil had to determine what was causing Josie’s bad behavior before he could give advice about improving the situation.
Dr Phil: Call 911 on a Teen
Vicki admitted that Josie runs the family home. The girl told Dr Phil’s cameras that she hates being told “no,” and mother agreed that this can set her off and create a scene, sometimes ending in a physical fight.
During the day, her mother dreads getting home from work because she never knows what crisis she will walk into the middle of once she walks through the door. One time, Vicki had to call 911 and have Josie arrested for attacking Howard, Vicki’s husband.
Dr Phil: Mom Had Teen Arrested
Josie still cannot believe that her mother called the police and had her arrested. She spent nine days in jail following that incident. Vicki is also concerned about her daughter’s use of alcohol, marijuana, and other drugs.
Dr Phil looked at a portion of the list of Josie’s bad behavior, including sneaking boys into her bedroom at least 20 times. Vicki stammered and couldn’t explain how or why she was ignorant of this behavior.
Dr Phil: Daughter Steals Cash and Car
Vicki said that Josie has stolen cash and her mother’s debit card to buy liquor. She also takes the car from the garage whenever she wants to. Vicki and Howard now go through a checklist of the personal items they have to keep locked up away from Josie.
Dr Phil suggested that the parents’ punishments do not fit the crimes and are not getting through to the girl, who can be manipulative. Josie said she wants her mother to listen and understand her feelings so they can have less hostile communications.
Dr Phil: Consequences of Childish Behavior
Dr Phil told Josie she was going to need to do better than flunking the ninth grade, and that her mother’s life will go on whether she succeeds or not. Then he told Vicki that she has spent too much time being a friend rather than a parent.
He thought that Josie did not understand the consequences of her childish behavior, so she may not understand the magnitude of the choices she has made. Dr Phil called Josie entitled and Vicki an enabler.
Dr Phil: Teenager’s Painful Past
Josie admitted that she was stubborn and had a bad attitude, but Dr Phil thought it could all be a facade to camouflage a painful past. This seemed to resonate with Josie.
Dr Phil told Vicki that children and teens are not usually equipped to manage their newfound powers and freedoms. Hopefully together these two can start fresh, set appropriate boundaries, and make it through the challenges of the high school years.
Dr Phil: Parenting Troubled Teens
Dr Phil offered #Help4Teen on the show, but what can parents do if they find themselves in a similar situation? Dr Phil has spent countless hours working with troubled teens. Here are some thoughts you can consider when times get tough with a teen.
- What is causing dramatic changes in personality or behavior?
- Did something happen in a child’s formative years that has caused lasting pain?
- Can you create a safe space for your teen to talk while you listen?
- Are you acting like a parent or a friend? Is that appropriate in this situation?